What if the definition of a good Partnership and marriage was,”not having a definition of it at all”?
What if the definition of a good Partnership and marriage was,”not having a definition of it at all”?
I have been contemplating a lot on this for the last few months. Asking the Source a lot of questions regarding what true partnership, relationship means.
A while back I came to this awareness. A partner/husband/wife is not supposed to be the source of joy in our lives. The concept of marriage was created by society for many reasons (economical, biological, lineal).
And we have created so many beliefs and points of view around marriage and intimate relationship which has nothing to do with creating a joyous partnership/relationship/intimacy.
We have been taught and conditioned to believe that we have to mate for life. A faulty premise to begin with. We can choose to do so of course. But the fact that we have been conditioned to believe,that if we don’t have that something is wrong with us or we are not good enough. What Hogwash!
Little girls are made to believe that they can fulfill their purpose on earth only when they have given birth to a child or children ,experienced motherhood, married, settled down so to speak (not in the exact order of what I just typed here). Where is the choice in that? How many of you have made yourself wrong, faulty, not good enough because you haven’t accomplished that yet or having done that, you still don’t feel fulfilled?
How many boys have been conditioned to believe that their true worth lies in being a ‘provider’, the strong manly archetype who goes to work at wee hours of the morning, is the breadwinner of the family, and is meant to be the strong and silent one. How many men are being shown by example he is not meant to be nurturing, or emotionally communicative?
We learn that a good relationship means spending an expected amount of time in each others company. That if you or your partner doesn’t do that, something is wrong with your relationship. We come to believe if you both don’t like and enjoy the same things you ain’t compatible. How many have come to believe that ending a relationship that doesn’t seem to be working is a sing of your failure?
There are so many programmings each and everyone is operating from.
What if relationships could be anything that we wanted it to be? What if the partner wasn’t supposed to be the one to fill our cup of joy? What if we are the ones who get to choose what fills our cup and we are the ones responsible for our happiness? What if one person wasn’t supposed to be all the colors in the fabric of our experiences? What if we chose to let go of the expected notions of what makes a marriage/relationship good or bad? What if we were the ones who got to choose what the right relationship looks like for us? What if we got to choose a relationship did not maketh or breaketh our life?
What if you were the one who got to choose an absolute new construct of the dynamics and interplay of your intimate relationship? What if you were to know that your life is an ongoing creation? That nothing needs to be defined or decided based on forever and a lifetime? That you are creating your experiences, be it with relationships – intimate or otherwise, with money, with time, with everything that is the fabric of your life, moment by moment with the choices you are making in your beliefs and in your perspectives?
And the truth is that you can choose differently, you can choose anew, you can choose to receive. The journey starts with you. It starts with the awareness of who you truly are- Energy being inhabiting this body. You have a choice to acknowledge that truth for yourself and begin playing with the energy that you are and receive infinite possibilities that the Source would love to help you receive.
What possibilities would you like to experience in your life? In your relationships? With money? In your health? With your body?
I leave you here to reflect and expand your awareness if you choose to do so. Why not ask the Universe “What else is possible?”
If you wish to explore this awareness more, let’s come together. I would love to assist you with some new tools to do just that.
Love and Blessings
Dilpreet